Alone and ALive
Alone and Alive by Janet Boyanton is a practical and useful book on what a woman goes through when she loses her spouse. Many parts of it can pertain to men as well, but it is written for women.
“This book will not be about sadness. It is not the tear-jerking story of a grieving widow. It is the story of how to overcome the grief and recapture the joy of life. It is the story of how you live in your newfound state, how you move on, and most important, how you stay yourself, even when you feel like part of you is gone forever.”
Mrs. Boyanton sent her husband and 9 year old son off on a camping trip that ended tragically. Her son called her and told her that his father would not wake up. This started her down a journey that taught her that people, especially women, are not emotionally or physically prepared for the loss of a spouse. She gives a straightforward account of what should be done from finances to things that have an emotional impact on the surviving spouse.
The author’s advice is not to do anything immediately, but to wait at least a year if finances will let you. Some of the things she suggests are not to sell your house, don’t let anyone move in with you or move in with anyone else until you have had a chance to grieve and find out where you stand emotionally and financially.
She has several decision making aids that will help you to make plans for the future. You may not need all of them, but it is worthwhile going through each one.
Janet Boyanton is a probate attorney practicing in Texas. In addition to her JD, she holds a Master’s of Business Administration and a Master’s of Divinity from Perkins School of Theology. Her education and experience as a widow gives her a unique position from which to address the issues that affect all women who have suffered a loss.
Alone and Alive was a finalist in non-fiction at the North Texas Book Festival in Denton, Texas on April 14, 2012 and the winner of the 2012 Texas Association of Authors Book Award for Women's Issues.
“This book will not be about sadness. It is not the tear-jerking story of a grieving widow. It is the story of how to overcome the grief and recapture the joy of life. It is the story of how you live in your newfound state, how you move on, and most important, how you stay yourself, even when you feel like part of you is gone forever.”
Mrs. Boyanton sent her husband and 9 year old son off on a camping trip that ended tragically. Her son called her and told her that his father would not wake up. This started her down a journey that taught her that people, especially women, are not emotionally or physically prepared for the loss of a spouse. She gives a straightforward account of what should be done from finances to things that have an emotional impact on the surviving spouse.
The author’s advice is not to do anything immediately, but to wait at least a year if finances will let you. Some of the things she suggests are not to sell your house, don’t let anyone move in with you or move in with anyone else until you have had a chance to grieve and find out where you stand emotionally and financially.
She has several decision making aids that will help you to make plans for the future. You may not need all of them, but it is worthwhile going through each one.
Janet Boyanton is a probate attorney practicing in Texas. In addition to her JD, she holds a Master’s of Business Administration and a Master’s of Divinity from Perkins School of Theology. Her education and experience as a widow gives her a unique position from which to address the issues that affect all women who have suffered a loss.
Alone and Alive was a finalist in non-fiction at the North Texas Book Festival in Denton, Texas on April 14, 2012 and the winner of the 2012 Texas Association of Authors Book Award for Women's Issues.
